This school year was perhaps the most difficult one I’ve experienced in two decades in the classroom.
From constantly having to cover for sick or otherwise absent staff, to absorbing student traumas suffered in years of a pandemic, to increased student fights, social awkwardness and administrators demanding more paperwork and untried initiatives that get dropped for another fad next week…
It’s been rough!
Now that most K-12 schools have begun or are about to begin summer break, it can be hard to rest and renew yourself for the coming year.
To be honest, many teachers have already decided to leave.
At my district, more teachers have retired this year than at any time since I was hired – about 10% of the staff.
And some even quit in the middle of the year – something that hardly ever happens.
If things don’t change this year, it will be worse next year.
But for those like me planning on returning in the Fall, congratulations. You made it through.
I don’t know about you, but I often find myself nibbled by stress and anxiety.
I try to sleep, I try to rest, but worry and hopelessness settle down on me like a shroud.
If you’re like me, you may need some help getting through it all.
So here’s a list of five things we can do – not just you, but me, too – that hopefully will help us rejuvenate ourselves somewhat in the next few months and set us up for a successful year with our students.
1) Be Present with Friends and Family
Teachers often live in their heads.
We’re always planning a new lesson or thinking about how to help a student or improve something from the year before.
But this is summer break.
It’s time to tune out and turn off.
You’re home and hopefully you can find some time to spend with friends and family.
Just remember to try to be there. Actually be there.
Don’t live in your head. Live in the moment.
Let the present open up in front of you and actually enjoy the things you’re doing.
Our professional lives often demand we sacrifice so much time with our significant others, our kids, and the people we care about. Now is the time to balance the scales and enjoy their company. And nothing else.
This can be easier said than done, but it’s worth a try.
2) Don’t Focus on Things You Can’t Change
There is so much going on in the world, and we’re teachers. We’re problem solvers.
We want to fix broken things, and there is so much broken out there. The news is often not our friend.
I’m not saying to ignore what’s going on. We do so at our peril. But we have to try to put it all in context.
We’re just people – individuals caught in nets of complexity. We can’t solve all these problems ourselves.
A horrible regressive monster is running for Governor in the Fall who would destroy your profession and endanger your child’s future. Got it.
And they’ll still be doing it at the end of August.
Take a break from it all.
Worrying will not change anything. And it will all be there for you later.
Just try to focus your mind elsewhere – for a little while.
3) Let Go of Resentments
This can be really hard but important.
There are a lot of people who have probably said or done things that made your life difficult this year.
It could be that parent who screamed at you on the phone over an assignment their child didn’t turn in.
It could be an administrator who made another stupid initiative that makes him/her look good while increasing your work load but does nothing to help the students.
It could be a sincerely stupid politician accused with pedophilia and insurrection who thinks taking pot shots at teachers will win him votes from the lowest common denominator.
It could be… so many people.
Take a deep breath and let it go.
You don’t need that baggage weighing you down.
As Nelson Mandela is supposed to have said:
“Having resentment against someone is like drinking poison and thinking it will kill your enemy.”
Leave that behind.
There will be plenty more next year.
4) Don’t Expect Too Much of Yourself
Often our harshest critic is ourselves.
We try so hard to be kind to everyone all year. This summer, be kind to yourself.
It’s break time. You don’t have to clean the whole house top to bottom. You don’t have to finally rearrange the utility drawer or any of a million other things that have been waiting around for you to get to them.
By all means, make those doctor’s appointments you’ve been waiting on. Buy a new pair of shoes. Cut the grass.
But if something doesn’t get done, don’t feel like it’s a failure.
You are allowed to simply do nothing.
Sometimes that’s the best thing we can do.
Be as productive as you want. Sometimes that helps alleviate stress, too – the satisfaction of getting things accomplished.
However, this break is not all about crossing things off your TO DO list.
It’s about rest and renewal.
Cut yourself some slack.
No one else will.
5) Remember Why You Got into Teaching
When you feel ready to turn your mind back to the job, try not to think of all the negative things waiting for you.
Don’t even let your mind rest on the uncertainties and anxieties ahead.
Focus on why you’re still a teacher.
You’re not chained to this profession. You probably had the chance to leave if you’d wanted.
Why did you get into education in the first place?
For me, it’s nearly everything in the classroom, itself.
It’s helping them succeed and then seeing the look of joy on their faces when they do.
I love everything about my job – the subject I teach, the students, being there when there’s no one else.
It’s just all the stuff outside the classroom that I can’t stand.
I make a file during the year full of Christmas cards, goodbye messages from parents and students, positive emails, etc. During the summer is a perfect time to read through them and remember the good things.
At least, that’s what I try to do anyway.
So there’s my list. I hope you found it helpful.
Health, relaxation, calm. Be warned – I’m certainly no expert on the subject.
Remember the words of author Nakeia Homer:
“You are not lazy, unmotivated, or stuck. After years of living your life in survival mode, you are exhausted.”
Finding ways to recharge and renew is something I know I desperately need – maybe as you do, too.
Here’s hoping we can find the peace we need this summer.
The new academic year will be here before we know it.
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